Sometimes, being a mom is just hard. Don't get me wrong, it is by far the greatest and most fulfilling thing I've ever done! For example, I don't think I have ever felt more satisfied and accomplished then when James finally started eating finger foods. Actually being able to pick the food up between his little thumb and pointer finger, successfully put it in his mouth, chew and swallow WITHOUT gagging and throwing up everything he just ate. That feeling beat any A I'd ever gotten on a paper or test.
I have also never been more excited then when James started crawling, or reached other milestones. Like, I'm talking "going to disneyland/can't wipe a grin off my face for the rest of the day" excited.
That all being said- motherhood sure is not a walk in the park. Nope. It is
hard. It is the biggest lesson I have ever had on selflessness. A lesson I think will take more than a lifetime to master.
Not only do I have to meet someone's every need (change diaper, get dressed, feed, put to bed, etc.), but I have to figure out
when those needs need to be met. I cannot for the life of me figure out a schedule for James. When is the perfect time for breakfast? Lunch? Snacks? Let's not forget the naps. I'm pretty sure I get
at least one thing wrong every. single. day. What I end up with is a baby refusing to eat, hitting the spoon away and screaming at me. As for naps, I can't time those well either. Yesterday I thought I nailed it. Morning nap- check. Almost a whole 1.5 hours. Then we went and ran some errands, came home and had a lovely lunch (he finally decided to try graham crackers!), and it was time for a nap.
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| James happily eating his graham crackers |
I put my happy baby in his crib, where he began to scream. For one whole hour. You may be wondering how the rest of the day went. Let's not even go there. I'll just say, we were
very very happy when Daddy finally came home.
Thankfully, not all days are like that. Every now and then I have a pretty smooth sailing kind of day. Days where he takes his naps, eats his food, plays with his toys, I get to shower, I get dressed, etc. Unfortunately those days are less frequent then I would like. As I type this, I'm wearing a t-shirt, sweats, and haven't showered yet. I'm pretty sure I only do my hair and makeup once a week, and that's on Sunday-for Church.
Now, we are in the process of trying to sleep train James, and James has been sick the past week. Those are not normal circumstances. I'm sure the days will get easier... right?
Here are a few things I am looking forward to:
-James sleeping on a schedule
-James not sounding like he's hacking up a lung
-weather to get warmer so we can go play outside
-when James becomes a big brother in August.
Oh yeah, I forgot to mention another "not normal" circumstance. I'm pregnant! And let me tell you, being pregnant while taking care of a baby is pretty draining. But, however exhausted, hungry, hangry (hungry+angry), emotional, etc. I am, I'm extremely grateful for this surprise baby, and for the opportunity to be James's mom. Because lets face it- they're the best kids in the world :)
PS if anyone has any good nap advice they would like to share, please feel free :)